All work and no play makes Jill a dull girl.
And when Jill is a dull girl, Jill likes to find fun foods because eating is her only real break ( or she totally loses it in an isolated mountainous hotel).
I live in New York City and New York City is a very expensive place. In order to stay here and work here, one has to work very hard just to stay afloat.
When I first graduated from NYU, I had job at a grocery store.
The hours were pretty horrible. The pay was pretty minimal but I was hoping that I could somehow grow in my field by continuing to stay there. Being low-ranking in retail is especially challenging because you have to be available at all times. That means late at night and on the weekends. And that's what I did.
This meant that whenever fun activities at night and the weekends would come up, I would politely decline in favor of my work. So, instead of seeing my friends and being 22, I stayed home and spent a lot of time with Netflix and Hulu.
It was pretty grinding and soul-crushing.
My big release, however, were snacks and alcohol. I loved coming home and enjoying whatever snack I found on sale and whatever interesting IPA I could afford. Other nights, it was cereal.
And because it was the most fun part of my day, many nights I couldn't stop eating. I would eat WAAAAAAAY past my fullness cue.
I don't tell this story to show you guys how awesome I am. I mean, I am, but that's beyond the point.
Symbolic restriction in our lives can lead to literal "binges" with our food.
When we limit what we do, our body compensates. In the same way that calorie restriction actually physiologically sets you up for a binge because your body becomes convinced that you're starving, mentally restricting our lives can also result in the physical manifestation of binging on food. For other people, binging might look more like overspending, drug or alcohol abuse, or, in the case of The Shining, a full psychotic break.
By loosening the reins on our lives, we can actually achieve a healthier relationship with food.
Here's what helped me to survive those dark days:
1. I came to terms with the fact that I was hungry after my late night shifts.
I had to accept that I needed a little self-love after a long day behind the register. This brought a little mindfulness to my late-night snacking.
2. I got promoted.
Hard work pays off. Eventually, I had a new job that allowed me to have a little bit more control over my schedule which meant that I could actually plan a few things with my friends and family to relax.
3. I made friends with my coworkers
Coworkers understand why your schedule is sooo crazy and don't think you're just blowing them off when you can't hang. They know your schedule and understand when you can't make it. Also, it makes work more fun when you go in and get to hang out with people you like.
So, for those of you that feel trapped by your lifestyle right now and KNOW you're using food as a way to manage it, let's talk. Schedule your first FREE session with me.